Most people text to feel close and then wonder why nothing moves. Use fixed windows and message caps so conversations create dates, not drain time.
Framework
Step 1 - Set a 2 to 6 hour reply window
Default to 2 to 6 hours between replies during the week and 1 to 3 hours on active planning days
If either person needs more than 12 hours to respond twice in 3 days, switch to one evening check in
Step 2 - Cap the count at 8 to 12 messages per day
Keep total daily messages under 12 or replace the next back and forth with a 5 minute call
If you exchange 20 or more messages in a day without planning, stop initiating until a plan is proposed
Step 3 - Convert to dates within 7 days
You want 2 concrete plan attempts by Day 7 with time and place or a 10 minute scheduling call
If there are zero plan attempts by Day 7, pause texting for 72 hours and reopen only with logistics
Standards on paper: 3 non-negotiables, 5 dealbreakers, 2 green flags
Cadence: Replies in 2 - 6 hours, follow-up in 24 hours, dates spaced 3 - 5 days
Quick Wins
Clean your thread in under 5 minutes by muting non planners for 7 days
Ask 3 questions about weeknights, weekends, and commute time to find windows
End any playful banter at message 6 and pivot to logistics
Confirm a plan within 12 hours after a high energy exchange
Script: “Enjoy chatting but I keep texting light. Free Thu 7 or Sat 5 to meet for an hour?”
If - Then Fallbacks
If replies exceed 12 hours twice in a week, then match that cadence for 14 days or exit
If scheduling stalls beyond 10 messages, then switch to a single 5 minute call or pause
If a boundary is crossed once, then immediate exit
If 2 green signals and 0 dealbreakers, then continue for 7 days and reassess
If two plans cancel within 10 days, then stop initiating for 14 days or exit
Closer
Texting is for confirming time and place, not building fantasies. Keep replies inside windows, cap the count, and let the plan do the work.
One Metric: By Day 7 - 2 plan attempts and 1 date scheduled. Else pause or exit.
Proof over promises.
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