Most people think confidence is a tone.
It’s not.
It’s architecture.
When your messages have no structure, they swing between two extremes:
too much energy (looks eager) or too little (looks avoidant).
That swing is what destroys momentum - not your personality.
The fix is brutally simple:
a consistent 3-line structure that grounds your presence, keeps pacing clean, and prevents you from leaking insecurity into the interaction.
Most people overthink the words.
What actually matters is the framework.
Here’s what it looks like when it works:
Most stop here. Here’s what to do instead:
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