Power isn’t lost in arguments, mixed signals, or slow declines.
You lose it in one instant:

The moment you try to secure what you haven’t earned yet.

It’s subtle.
A one-inch lean forward.
A too-fast reply.
An over-explanation.
A justification no one asked for.

You shift from presence…
to trying to prove your place within the connection.

That’s when attraction drops.
Not because you’re “too available,”
but because you slip into emotional debt -
trying to pay for closeness before it exists.

Here’s the belief you need to break:

Showing interest doesn’t build connection.
Matching interest does.
And most people reveal their mismatch in milliseconds.

You can fix it -
but only if you start with this: