You can feel it the second it starts.

The tiny drop in respect.
The slower replies.
The slight change in tone that tells you you’re no longer being met with the same energy.

Most people panic here.
They over-text, over-explain, or over-give.
They try to fix the slide by becoming more agreeable.

That’s the move that kills the relationship.

Because the moment you start performing for validation, you’re no longer in a relationship.
You’re in an audition.

And auditions never create attraction. They create hierarchy.
One person waits. The other decides.

Here’s the part most people never admit:

The slide didn’t start with them.
It started with you.

Attraction breaks when you abandon your standards first.
When you stop holding your line.
When you react instead of lead.
When you let momentum get replaced by anxiety.

The loss of power is rarely a sudden betrayal.
It’s death by hesitation.

But once you see the pattern, you can reverse it.
And the reversal is always the same.

It starts with a brutal question:

Where did you give up your position?

Most people never ask this.
They blame their partner.
They blame mixed signals.
They blame timing.

But the truth is cleaner and sharper:

Power leaves the moment you stop controlling the frame.

And if you want it back, you don’t chase it.
You reclaim it by correcting the behavior that weakened it.

The process is brutal but simple: