Pullback never starts with distance.
It starts with a shift.

A subtle change in how they read you.
A wobble in the dynamic.
A micro-misalignment in the energy.

And it always happens before the behavior you notice.

Most people only react once the messages slow down or the tone changes.
But by then, the shift already locked in.

Here’s the hidden part:

Pullback starts the moment they can’t tell where they stand with you.

Not because you were unclear…
but because your energy changed just enough for them to feel it.

Your tone tightened.
Your excitement dipped.
Your certainty flickered.
Your rhythm got inconsistent.

And humans treat uncertainty like danger.
When the signal changes, they instinctively protect themselves.

Most people stop here. Here’s what to do instead: