No one “accidentally” ends up in a gray zone.
It happens when you don’t start with standards.

You wing it.
You’re chill.
You give them space to show up “naturally.”
And then you wonder why you’re stuck interpreting vibes instead of enjoying momentum.

Here’s the truth:
People don’t rise to meet you.
They test you first.
And if they feel no structure, they treat it like a playground.

Here’s how to stop that.