Early dating feels vague because everything is vibes and hope. Use this filter to convert energy into decisions in under two weeks.
Framework
Step 1 - Pre date checks in 10 minutes
Confirm 2 basics in chat within 24 hours: availability this week and location within 45 minutes
Binary pass if they give 1 time window and 1 neighborhood without hedging
Step 2 - Date 1 in 60 to 75 minutes
Meet at a quiet spot with seating and leave at minute 75 regardless of chemistry
Confirm Date 2 on the spot or within 12 hours, or exit
Step 3 - Date 2 within 3 to 5 days
Minimum to continue: on time, asks 2 questions about your world, proposes next step or shared plan
Exit triggers: 2 reschedules, alcohol overuse, or evasive answers on relationship intent
Standards on paper: 3 non-negotiables, 5 dealbreakers, 2 green flags
Non negotiables - aligned timeline in 6 to 12 months, steady weekly cadence, respectful communication during minor friction
Dealbreakers - chronic lateness 10 plus minutes twice, vague availability for 2 weeks, love bombing 10 plus texts overnight, disrespect to staff once, inconsistent stories about past relationships
Green flags - proactive scheduling with 2 time options, consistent follow through for 7 days
Cadence: Replies in 2 - 6 hours, follow-up in 24 hours, dates spaced 3 - 5 days
Keep responses under 120 words and under 3 messages per topic
Use one follow up after 24 hours, then stop
Quick Wins
Lock a time in ≤3 messages
Ask 3 questions on values, logistics, and routines
Leave by minute 75 or confirm Date 2 within 12 hours
Follow up with a concrete plan or a binary ask
Script: “I’m free Thu 7 or Sat 4 at [spot]. Which works for you”
If–Then Fallbacks
If no reply in 24 hours, then send one concise follow up and pause
If scheduling slips beyond 7 days, then stop and archive
If boundary is crossed once, then immediate exit
If 2 green signals and 0 dealbreakers, then continue for 10 days
If chaos after 6 texts or 12 hours, then switch topic or exit
Closer
Decide in two dates, not two months. Clear rules protect your time and keep momentum.
One Metric: By Day 10 - 2 dates complete and 4 of 6 checks pass. Else exit.
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