Planning is easy when you are free. The real work is checking if their energy actually matches yours in hours, not weeks.
Framework
Step 1 - 90 minute cap
Set a 75 to 90 minute window for the first meet on 10/17 at a fixed start time like 19:00
If they push for an open ended night or “let’s see,” keep the cap or exit after 90 minutes
Step 2 - 3 by 30 energy scan
In the first 30 minutes, look for 3 quick signals: punctual within 5 minutes, a question back within 2 turns, and a plan assist like offering to book
If 2 of 3 are missing by minute 30, run the clock to 75 and end at 90 with no next date offered
Step 3 - 4 of 6 by the door
Before you leave, you should see 4 of 6 checks: steady eye contact twice, low phone use under 3 glances, reciprocal stories twice, light humor once, future breadcrumb once, comfortable physical distance throughout
If you hit 3 or fewer by 21:00, no second invite for 10 days
Standards on paper: 3 non-negotiables, 5 dealbreakers, 2 green flags
Cadence: Replies in 2 - 6 hours, follow-up in 24 hours, dates spaced 3 - 5 days
Quick Wins
Block 2 time slots for Friday 10/17: 18:30 to 20:00 and 19:00 to 20:30 in 3 minutes
Ask 4 questions about their week, weekend plans, sleep pattern, and ideal Friday energy
End the date at minute 85 to avoid drift and preserve momentum
Confirm a focused plan within 6 hours if mutual interest is at 4 of 6 or higher
Script: “Free Fri 10/17 at 7 sharp 75 to 90 minute drink near Main if that works I’ll book by 3 pm”
If - Then Fallbacks
If confirmation is not clear in 6 hours, then offer 1 alternate slot and stop
If scheduling slips 2 times, then pause for 14 days
If boundary is crossed once, then immediate exit
If 2 green signals and 0 dealbreakers, then continue for 7 days
If scheduling chaos exceeds 10 messages, then switch or exit
Closer
Energy is measured, not guessed. Use one Friday to confirm match speed and interest.
One Metric: By 10/18 10:00 - response received and 4 of 6 checks met. Else exit.
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