Early dates feel exciting and vague at the same time. Use a 10 day window with hard checks so you know to invest or exit without overthinking.
Framework
Step 1 - Schedule two dates inside 10 days
Lock date 1 within 72 hours of matching or reconnecting and date 2 within 7 days of date 1
If either date slips beyond 2 reschedules or past Day 10, stop initiating and reopen only with logistics
Step 2 - Track six binary signals across both dates
You want punctuality twice, phone away 80 percent of the time, questions that go 2 layers deep, a next plan mentioned by one of you, tone steady under mild friction, and a safe exit on time
If any hard boundary is crossed once, end the filter and exit
Step 3 - Decide by Day 10
Move forward if you have 4 of 6 signals plus mutual interest rated 6 out of 10 or higher by both of you
If below 4 of 6 or interest under 6 out of 10, stop at two dates and do not schedule a third for 30 days
Standards on paper: 3 non-negotiables, 5 dealbreakers, 2 green flags
Cadence: Replies in 2 - 6 hours, follow-up in 24 hours, dates spaced 3 - 5 days
Quick Wins
Send the first scheduling message in under 3 minutes after a lively exchange
Ask 5 specifics about schedule, hobbies, friends, weekends, and near term plans
End each date at minute 90 to 110 even if it is great
Confirm windows for date 2 within 12 hours of date 1 ending
Script: “Enjoyed tonight 6 to 7 30. Free Sun 5 or Tue 7 for a short part two?”
If - Then Fallbacks
If replies exceed 12 hours twice in 5 days, then match cadence for 7 days or exit
If planning exceeds 10 messages per plan, then switch to a single 5 minute call or pause
If a boundary is crossed once, then immediate exit
If 2 green signals and 0 dealbreakers, then continue for 7 days and reassess
If zero concrete plan attempts by Day 7, then pause texting for 72 hours and reopen only with logistics
Closer
Two dates in ten days is a filter, not a fling. Count the behaviors, keep the clock, and let the threshold make the call.
One Metric: By Day 10 - 2 dates complete and 4 of 6 signals present. Else exit.
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