You go quiet for a few days.
Suddenly, they notice. The texts come faster. The tone turns warm again.
Call it the Pullback Effect.
It feels like proof they care - but it’s not. It’s proof they noticed the shift in attention.
They don’t miss you. They miss how your energy centered them.
When you were available, they coasted.
When you step back, they chase.
Not because they’ve changed - because they want to reset the balance.
It’s the oldest rhythm in half-hearted connection: disappear, return, repeat.
You end up managing both your feelings and their timing.
And that’s not chemistry. That’s control.
That’s the dynamic we break inside The 90-Day Filter Playbook - 25% off (simple and grounded).
If this pattern sounds familiar:
Notice who only responds to distance
Don’t confuse attention with accountability
Pause before rewarding inconsistency
Script: "Every time I step back, you step in. I’m done with that cycle."
You can apply this inside Signals+ - 2-day free trial (red/green flag library + premium posts).
By week one - if the effort only shows up when you withdraw, it’s not real.
Let the space stay empty.
See who shows up without the pull.
Proof over promises.
NoMixedSignals.